You Get Me

 Title: You Get Me: Simple, Romantic Ways to Speak the 5 Love Languages

Authors: Gary Chapman and Jen Mickelborough

Publisher: Moody Publishers

Genre: Relationships/Love and Marriage

Synopsis:

Love Your Loved One in the Ways That Mean the Most

Knowing your significant other’s love language is the first step to communicating love—but ideas for how to communicate don’t always come easily. While your love is unquestionable, are you expressing it in ways that are meaningful to your loved one?

In You Get Me by Jen Mickelborough and Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages, you’ll find simple, practical ideas for how to infuse your relationship with excitement, joy, and intimacy as you care for your beloved in the ways that mean the most to him or her. From planning spontaneous dinners to warm embraces, from creating thoughtful playlists to picking out the perfect gift, learn ways to communicate your love in every love language.

Don’t let a lack of ideas limit your best intentions. Discover how these simple, everyday expressions of love can become fundamental to establishing understanding and connection within your relationship.

My Review:  

Author Dr. Gary Chapman has teamed up with artist Jen Mickelborough to bring us You Get Me: Simple, Romantic Ways to Speak the 5 Love Languages. Chapman is the author of The 5 Love Languages books. Mickelborough is a British artist who lives in England.

In the introduction, Mickelborough states how she wrote the original version of this book sixteen years ago. She discusses how the simple gestures outlined in this book have revitalized her marriage.

For those who might not be familiar with The 5 Love Languages, Chapman walks the reader through the five love languages, giving a brief overview of each one of them. They are words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Chapman stresses the point that each person has a different love language and it is our responsibility to figure out our spouse's love language. While that is the one that will matter the most to them, you should easily combine in the others as well.

After the introduction, there is a brief section on how to use this book. The general idea is to just use the book, picking it up, and implementing an idea that is in the book. Most ideas will require little thought or planning, while others will take a little more effort.

The main part of this book is broken down into 5 sections, the 5 love languages. Each section outlines 21 ideas that you could utilize under that heading. For example, under words of affirmation, the first example is poetry of love. Under poetry of love, it gives you three ideas of what it means, either write a poem, find a poem that expresses your love, or buy a poetry book that reminds you of your spouse. 

Mickelborough's artistic touch is evident in each section of the book. Each section has its own color scheme. As you read through the suggestions under each heading Mickelborough has drawn sketches for an appealing visual effect. 

At the end of the book are pages that you can note the ideas tried, how it went, the variation you chose, or you can have your partner put an asterisk in the column of an idea that they would enjoy.  This is followed by blank pages where you or your partner can write in additional ideas.

The only downside to this book is the cost. I do not think that $9.99 is a reasonable price to pay for this very small book. I understand the work that went into it, but that is steep for this book.

This is an interesting book that will enhance any relationship. We should try to figure out our loved one's love language and speak to them in that language.  The ideas in this book are original and easy to implement. The colors enhance the overall design. I would recommend this book to anyone who has a desire to add depth and meaning to their relationships. 

Thank you to Moody Publishers for the opportunity to read this book. I was not required to give a positive review. All thoughts and opinions are my own.